Your language might
offend some people, but the tone and attitude behind your words do
far greater damage to all of your relationships.
Even if your friends and associates commonly use cuss words, you will
be perceived as more mature, intelligent, articulate, polite, considerate
and pleasant if you control your language and the emotions that typically
prompt expletives. You can choose to have character and class, or
be considered rude, crude and crass.
Cursing is sometimes humorous, but sometimes abusive. It can help
vent anger, or provoke it. It can relieve stress, or cause it. It
can be clever and flirtatious, or sexist and intimidating. Consequently,
be aware of when and where you swear. Control it, tame it, time it.
Or, to be on the safe side, stop using it altogether.
1. Recognize that swearing does damage.
You probably swear because it is easy, fun, candid, emphatic, expressive,
breaks rules, and somehow partially reduces anger and pain. But the
negatives outweigh the positives. You really don't win an argument
by swearing. You don't prove that you are smart or articulate. You
don't earn respect or admiration. You don't motivate, you intimidate.
Swearing doesn't get you hired, promoted, or romantically connected.
2. Start by eliminating casual swearing.
Pretend that your sweet little grandmother or your young daughter
is always next to you. Use inflections for emphasis instead of offensive
adjectives. Be more descriptive instead of using the "s" word to describe
everything from objects, work and the weather to the way you feel,
the way someone looks, and the way something smells.