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Lots of people swear. What's wrong with it?
It depends on why, when and where you are swearing. Swearing can be
rude, crude and offensive. It can reflect a bad attitude that hurts
your image and your relationships. People might perceive you as an
abrasive person who lacks character, maturity, intelligence, manners
and emotional control.
2. What if everyone I know swears?
Why not sound a bit more refined than everyone else? Besides, maybe
everyone swears, but no one swears everywhere. It isn't appropriate
in many situations. To avoid slipping or struggling to find a word
to replace that foul word you are accustomed to using, break the cussing
habit and practice speaking intelligently.
3. It isn't a crime or a sin, so what harm does it do?
Better to ask, what GOOD does it do? Sometimes it's funny and sometimes
it helps you vent anger, but swearing never earns you respect or admiration,
enhances your reputation, makes you more pleasant to be with, exhibits
your intelligence or vocabulary, or reflects strong character. It
doesn't demonstrate respect for others, help you win arguments, set
a positive example, get you romantically connected, or help you get
hired or promoted.
4. I only swear when I get angry or frustrated.
Is your anger or frustration always justified? Swearing has increased
partly because we expect everything to go right in our lives. We aren't
coping, we are cussing. Don't let little annoyances and daily aggravations
get to you. Instead of taking everything seriously, allow yourself
to have greater peace of mind.
5. I think swearing adds color and emphasis to our language.
Just the opposite, because most people keep using the same old swear
words. If your vocabulary is limited or you can't swear creatively,
try inflections, as in "I was FURious!"
6. I must not offend anyone, because no one ever tells me to watch
It is rare for someone to criticize another person for bad language,
but that is not a sign of acceptance. People could be passing judgment
on you without telling you how they feel.
7. I'm not going to bother because, quite frankly, I don't give
Lots of people don't, and that's the problem. We want to do and say
whatever we please. Our reluctance to restrain our impulses and to
make the effort to be polite is contributing to a coarser, less civil
8. I doubt if I could ever stop completely.
If you can reduce the use, that's better than not even trying.
9. Aren't you trying to eliminate swearing from the English language?
No. It is one of the ways we express ourselves and communicate, but
we overdo it.
10. Okay. So how do I take a class?
See Classes on this web site. We give presentations to large groups
across the country. As an individual, you can review the Ten Tips
on this site or purchase a copy of Cuss Control, The Complete Book
on How to Curb Your Cursing at any bookstore or through www.amazon.com
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